The Details of Service Planning
The funeral or memorial service is an important step toward healing hearts and beginning the process of mending the tear in the social fabric that exists after someone dies. During the funeral arrangement conference, we will guide you throughout the funeral planning process, provide you with clear answers to all your questions, and share our insights and experience with you.
The following is an overview of the many aspects of service planning we may discuss during the arrangement conference. If you have any questions about this information, don’t hesitate to call us.
Where Should the Service be Held?
Now that you have made the decision regarding burial versus cremation for your loved one, it is time to think about how you would like the service to look, and feel. It is an overall experience for everyone there; a testament to the life of someone you loved, and should illustrate the depth of your caring relationship.
Traditionally, the service was held in the family’s church. But, in today’s world, you can choose to hold the service almost anywhere that is meaningful or convenient for you.
Perhaps there is a special place that your loved one would have liked for a final goodbye? It could be at a community hall, a backyard, a favourite restaurant or park; perhaps even on the 18th hole of a golf course. Really, the choices are limited only by your imagination.
Of course, this is where you can rely heavily on us to help you in selecting the perfect location, and creating a memorable service.
What Day of the Week and Time of the Day are Best?
Naturally, the answers to this question depend on the location you’ve selected, and the schedules of those you wish to attend. We have made arrangements for evening services, followed by a dinner gathering at a local restaurant. We’ve also seen early afternoon services, held out-of-doors, in the sunshine and open air. If you have concerns about the weather, an indoor service may be a more suitable choice, and the day/time issue resolves itself when we look at the facility schedule.
Who Will Officiate the Service?
You can choose to have a minister of your faith officiate the service, or a certified celebrant. For that matter, you can choose almost anyone who is comfortable with speaking in public, but we believe it should be someone who cares deeply about guiding those in attendance through the ceremony. We also have Jack Ashby who works with us part time as a Planning Consultant and offers Pastoral Services. Jack has many years of experience officiating at funeral and memorial services.
Other Things to Consider
These are the decisions which really shape and personalize the service. For example, you will need to decide:
Which flowers, and in what colors, would you like to see on the casket or around the urn?
What type of music you would like to be played – and specifically, what selections? Live or pre-recorded?
Would you like transportation provided, to and from the service for friends and family?
Will you have a time in the service where people can share memories of your loved one?
Will you ask specific people to share, or offer an open mic?
Will there be a traditional eulogy? And if so, who will present it? Would a more informal tribute and sharing of stories and memories be preferable?
If there is to be a burial, will it be private, or open to all who choose to come?
If cremation is chosen, will you witness the cremation, or have a committal service at the crematorium?
Are there close personal friends or business partners you'd wish to have service responsibilities?
Would you like a dvd tribute to share your loved one's life through pictures and music?
What sort of memorial stationery would best portray your loved one?
If you’d like to learn more about any of the details involved in planning a funeral or memorial service for a loved one, call or email us.